In Reality to a Friend
In reality, in truth, someone who mistreats you; who is cruel,
unloving; someone who demeans your very person, your worth. Someone
who appears to fail to recognize your value, intelligence, and
feelings; or someone who attemtps to chip away at your self-esteem.
That person actually recognizes your value and is in fear of it,
rather than being comfortable with it; they feel inferior to it.
Because included in your value is an extremely loving person - a
discerning person. So, it follows that the person who has little to
no self esteem, will not know to nurture that esteem in others
through kindness. They do not know how to treat another as a treasure
of life, because they fail to recognize their own preciousness. They
do not recognize their own feelings of lack and deep woundedness -
after all, if they did, wouldn’t they want to never pass that on to
another - wouldn’t they want ‘the buck to stop with me?' As we,
individually, must ponder and act on?
It always rests on the individual to be and do what he/she wants and
expects from others. This is heady stuff and often difficult. Even
so, that certainly doesn’t mean not ‘making’ another uncomfortable.
If others are uncomfortable with my knowing we are all a treasure,
and the appropriate ethical, integrous and uplifting behavior is not
an option, but a requirement; that is OK - as long as I am fulfilling
that edict. What is important is that I walk that path extending it
to others. I may expect more than another is willing or capable of
giving. I don’t want to spend too much time with those people right
now. I feel time is short. While I am doing, I am learning. I expect
nothing less from everyone else. I do what I do best - presentation
via visual art [graphics, writing, painting, crafts] - because it
affords me the pleasure of combining all my gifts, i.e. discernment,
compassion, a passion for the best [which is actually included in
compassion], skill, intelligence, experience with the finest - and
conversely - experience with the worst life has to offer - and not
only did I survive that, those struggles of my past have proven to be
the foundation of my freedom from them, and I am learning to thrive
joyfully because of it.
December 5, 2006