
THE SCHECHTMANS AND THE SOPRANOS
BY Sy Schechtman
Almost every episode of the eight year television epic,
The Sopranos, shows the boss of the north Jersey Mafioso, Tony Soprano, in
peaceful contemplation of his large
mansion and large pool, in a quiet
stroll along his beautifully manicured vast lawn and shrubbery to pick up his morning newspaper. Every episode opens with Tony driving west,
away from New York City, thru the
Lincoln Tunnel and onto the Turnpike and
exiting in the Newark area in a lower middle class neighborhood, with
brief but graphic close up images of somewhat sordid reality; old buildings, soot and smoke from factory chimneys, and
mundane struggling humanity on
the streets. Tony is
driving his fairly elaborate
pickup truck and is puffing on a big
cigar. A sort of serene scowl seems to
hover on his face. Next to the night club and headquarters of his
business enterprises, the Bada Bing
Club, he parks and still puffing on his
large cigar, steps down from the cab of
the truck. Just before going inside he surveys this aspect of his turf, far from the
McMansion of his suburban enclave, and his features seem to relax and the cigar
seems to become more enjoyable.
Tony
is apparently much more comfortable in the dim, smoke filled inside of the club
than the bright daylight outside. To the viewer this is an immediate shock, viewing the mostly naked strippers
undulating slowly on an isolated dance floor which is a fringe part of the large
room, while Tony meets with his henchman,
his capos, who discuss current
business events that they are involved
in. While the viewers’ interest rather reluctantly is forced from the mostly
bare female flesh now in the background, interest
picks up as the various criminal and extra legal business
activities are discussed. Envelopes with weekly protection payoffs
are passed to boss Tony, sometimes with apologies for less of a take then usual. Strategies for decreasing this delinquency are discussed with his chief associates who are usually present, all with suitable Italianate names, Christopher Moltisanti, Bobby
“Baccalla” Baccalieri, and Paulie
Walnuts, whose name does not, in this case, do his pure
Italian personna justice. Sometimes the scene shifts rapidly from the
theoretical to the cruel present reality as Paulie, or Christopher, is shown confronting the intransigent client with a physical memento of this delinquent
behavior. Like a sore or aching cracked
rib from
a parting, gratuitous, reminder kick when the tardy dues client is
already down on the floor.
But then we cut to Tony in his domestic
dilemmas at his blissful suburban
idyll. Here no one is beaten up; Tony Soprano is mostly on the defensive. Because as a
beleaguered but loving father ,
whose family knows that he won’t kill them, parental exasperation is his most common
emotion, not an unusual feeling in most
middle class families. Carmela, his
enduring wife, does go a significant step further, and they do have a trial
separation,
not because of Tony’s business
“ethics” but because of his casual animal attitude toward
sex, bedding down several convenient and willing females when his faithful wife
was secure in the household palace. Carmela’s
estrangement is only temporary as Tony
promises to reform, and she goes back to her household as before, realizing
that the opulent life style was
too good to ignore, even though her personal psychiatrist emphatically warned
her that that the ill gotten gains of her husband were too unstable a
foundation for a happy marriage. But
most of us are still hooked on the brilliant, conniving sociopath that is
still Tony Soprano, and the rest of the series, while still very
compelling television, still deals with the uneasy compromise between the
decency and the depravity of of the human
being// animal. While Soprano and his gang of thugs still have conventional middle class strivings for the
respectability of their progeny ---weddings, graduations, births, great festive
eating celebrations, funerals and
certain required church appearances – they have little compunction about
casually distorting legality to enable them to still swim with this mainstream
respectable tide. In many early episodes a young parish priest
is seen in the household, enjoying with some of the household, (but not
necessarily Tony) many of Carmela’s
favorite Italian delicacies. Soon he
falls out of the mix, however, as both
parents realize that the possible involvement for their daughter, Meadow, in
too much religion and the possibility of
nunhood had to be avoided at all costs.
Secular college at all costs was
the goal!
The rather sad realization on the part of the
almost spellbound Schechtmans that Tony was essentially unredeemable came about
midway in the eight year intermittent
series. We had hoped somehow that the
sporadic killing would fade away and the criminal path would start to disappear
and spiritually nourishing good deeds would begin just as we in our own lives
had experienced. Indeed, most of us had
in our background, immigrants all, some
connection with rather devious routes to acceptable, approved citizen behavior. My aunt Fannie rented rooms in her two story
house in
During World War II a 20% excise tax on luxury iems, such as
furs, was added, and only long after the war’s end was it repealed. This was indeed a large additional charge in
addition to the considerable
initial cost of most fur garments,
compelling several ingenious and perhaps
desperate ways to sell “off the
books” ---for cash—so that there was no
actual record of the sale, and hence no 20% tax was applicable. But also, this money had to be returned to
the business off the record, too, to pay necessary salaries and legitimate espenses.
One loophole was that
no excise tax was charged on remodeling fur garments, and it was amazing how many remodels went
through our factory in that dismal era!!.
And every now
and then an IRS man would show up to check our “books” and assess how balanced they seemed. Generally
a cash Christmas gift of a few thousand dollars made everyone
happy. Actually all this done
was done sotto voce with our accountant, who was a first cousin, as the go between.
(We trusted him implicitly not to
add or subtract any part of that money into his own pocket!)
The point is that most of us had many
small or medium type legal “embarrassments”with conventional officialdom that made us
receptive to the not so squeaky clean record of more serious malefactors,;
especially after all the blurring
between good and evil in the prohibition era, when we
mostly “looked the other way” when
illegal selling of most alcoholic beverages and the attendant serious crime that resulted
was far from uncommon. And gun
ownership, and use, then and now, is still a hotly debated and perhaps
moot point. In effect, most of us were conditioned to be
fascinated voyeurs as we watched these sometimes very normal people do
startlingly malevolent deeds. We, on
the Schechtman side, became increasingly uneasy about perhaps
another murder or two being committed by
the Soprano’s Inc. although, refreshingly some episodes were
almost tranquil though still vital, even
in their non homicidal story line!
And so we found ourselves opting
out some nights when the new episode
ran, as we were anxious to be tension free of any upsetting,
though compelling violence.
Tony Soprano, we realized, though
still unredeemable was still
compellingly intriguing. What would this beastly man do next? And at times he was indeed compassionate!! Deep within the bosom of his family
we had his flesh and blood
mother, Livia, somewhat paranoiac and
planning to kill him, a dire fact that
Tony is well aware of. But Tony still
takes care of her, but not unfortunately in his palatial house
because his wife, Carmela, wisely
would not stand for this monster of a mother in law. A major part of one episode is devoted to
very upscale senior retirement homes that Livia might consent
to happily nurse her persecution complexes in.
Also, Tony has an uncle, Junior,
who now hates him, because Tony
has usurped his leadership in the
group. Junior, as time goes on,
develops Alzeheimer’s disease, and mistakenly
shots Tony in the stomach, almost killing him.
A major part of the next few episodes take place in the hospital in
The
quintessential, meaningful
actions of the courageous Dr. Jennifer Melfi, psychiatrist, are the still hopeful core of the this crime
and still very meager punishment saga. At the very beginning Tony is seen,
surreptiously, in Melfi’s modest
office, consulting her for his
occasional panic attacks. He has picked
her out from a list of Italian ancestry
“head shrinks”; unknown to his
hoodlum consorts because it might undermine his
reputation for cold calculating physical retribution. Melfi is in almost every episode of the
series, except the last, enigmatic finale. There is a distinct sexual tinge to their
encounters as Melfi has to unveil as
much as possible of Tony’s nefarious life.
One psychic breakthrough occurs
with Tony’s revelation of a recurring dream of ducks returning to his
large pool to nest and nurture
their young. Under Melfi’s guidance he
realizes that one reason for his attacks is fear of losing his family, as the ducks keep disappearing and may not return. He also has dreams of losing his penis and
searching for a good car mechanic to
weld it on again. Some of their sessions
leave Tony exasperated, even furious as
he stalks out of a visit
prematurely. But gradually he finds the visits an island of peace in his complicated
life, and he has feelings
of sexual attraction. Melfi understands this and explains the
normal transference phase of
attachment from patient to
therapist. But soon after this we do not see the shapely legs of the therapist so attractively displayed
because of the mini skirt she always
seems to have casually put on. Now she wears slacks as the sessions continue. And we viewers can perhaps thankfully take
our minds off any impending sexual encounters.
Melfi suffers the very serious indignity of rape in the parking garage near her office; and
event not related to Tony’s therapy. As
she recovers she has to resist the desire to have Tony revenge her on the
rapist, who is out on bail, to “squish him
like a bug”. Melfi, too, has to go
into hiding for awhile as a result of
her relationship with Tony. His Uncle
Junior, when he was still a prescient
Mafioso boss aiming to depose Tony,
found out that Tony was seeing a “shrink”, ( and a female one at that!) who perhaps a was suitable target for kidnap or blackmail. Tony provides her secure haven until truce
is declared between uncle and nephew. Melfi’s colleagues urge Melfi, who can
now come out of hiding, to dissociate herself from Tony. They read her a report about a recent study showing that talk
therapy may only reinforce a
sociopath’s pathologic behaviour.
After reading the report herself Melfi
finally terminates her relationship with Tony Soprano at their next session. And we are set up for the grand finale episode
in an very superior Italian restaurant
with all the remaining surviving
cast present except for Melfi and
Christopher (who Tony killed the week before in self defense) all in
anticipatory mode, both cast of actors and world wide audience, not knowing
whether the end will be bloody, benign, or bewildering. And it is indeed bewildering. The screen goes dark as some latecomers seem to be entering the
restaurant, but the only action
forthcoming now is the rolling of the screen credits, of which, of course , the
prime credit goes to David Chase, chief director , writer and producer of one of the most absorbing television
entertainments ever.
Follow up movie, anyone? Gandolfini in the guise of a slightly reformed Tony Soprano as the “evil” Robin
Hood of the poor. A marvelous
contradiction; a modified “super” Tony?
The Schechtman’s will most probably be ready-----God willing!